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Another silly fun shoot… The bear club had a “Trailer Trash” theme party at JJ’s a ways back which everyone seemed to have a lot of fun with including favorite faggling Dustin. I didn’t make it to the party myself but received updates via Instagram which included a pic of his costume / persona, “Sea Bass”.

After I got up off the floor from laughing hysterically I sent him a message insisting that Sea Bass make an appearance here so I could photograph him…. He did… so I did.



I’ve known (of) Jake for twenty years throughElise – but we’d never met. At that time he was just just that hot waiter at Brandts – and thoroughly unobtainable. (hetero). Thanks to the evil of The Great Book of Faces we’d start chatting and pinged pretty good off each other which eventually lead to a few marathon phone shoot-the-shit-a-thons at the end of last year.

At 40 you care a lot less about whether or not someone’s an obtainable sexual conquest and a lot more about the stuff people are made of. After our inaugural hang out of last night, I can say Mr. Mote is made of some nice stuff indeed: gentle humility, empathy and healthy helping of the kind of wisdom you get from taking the longer way around the block….. Thoroughly charming.

yes yes yes….. and there’s that epic ginger beard. *faints* (I’m man-crushing a little.) He was a good sport about it and let me shoot his portrait. (I did warn him he’d likely blow up on Tumblr among my circle of friends.)

MO/BRO friendships are really rewarding… I cherish all of mine… ( and bonus… boys don’t get jealous like my beloved girlfriends who I must keep separated – less they claw eachother’s eyes out )

Received a heartwarming text the next day from Mr. Mote about the evening… He’s quite the wordsmith:

“It was lovely – and past due. You guys have this great cadence of speech with each other. It’s something that only comes with time I think, like a rhythm where the chaff of unnecessary syllables (if not entire phrases) is completely ignored. Fuzzy telepathy, maybe? So no… Thank you mister.”

in the oven

My old colleague and friend Erin came to visit / hang out last night… We’ve barely seen each other since she got married 3 years ago and i went into hermit midlife deconstruct mode.

It’s a good friend sign when you can go for so long and when you get back together it’s like you just talked yesterday. She brought me armfulls of homemade holiday goodies…

She reached into her purse and started pulling out an envelope and said “I have something to show you…”

Without missing a beat or looking up while fixing my cocktail I immediately said: “I know… You’re pregnant… I could tell when you walked through the door.”

She was a little confused since she just found out and was showing no physical signs yet…

I had to explain how pregnant girls have a certain “glow” about them… It’s pretty obvious to me.

To give myself an excuse to fidget I asked to take some portraits of her… and to try and capture some of that Peggerglow.

She recounted stories of newlywedhood…
I bitched about boys…
We giggled a lot and promised not to wait another 3 years before hanging out again.